Learn to Say "No"

Some of us may find it difficult to reject a request which you don't actually wanna comply with. But why? How can we solve it?

Here's a Youtube video by an amazing certified life coach answering all these questions:

"How not to get taken advantage of; Learning to say no" - Marie Dubuque

Here's a summary of the video:

The main cause why we don't wanna reject people, probably, is that we all want to be liked and don't want the others to think badly of us.

In order to reverse that, we should change our mindset. Let's go back to my post "Be Our Own Self", I said

"I just don't give a care about what others may think about me. It's just me, right here. Whether they like it or not, it's their own business. I can't please everyone cos there must be someone who dislikes me."

We must understand the fact that there must be someone who're not gonna like us not matter what we do. With such mindset, we'll not have to worry about pleasing anyone.

Also, it's very important for us to know that there're people who're really bad. Many of those who raised those requests actually prey on kind-hearted people who don't know how to reject. They take advantage of them and use them.

We should think this way, as Marie said,

"I'm not gonna do anything for you unless I wanna do it. You're not gonna guilt me. You're not gonna control me into doing something I don't wanna do."

Yet, it doesn't mean we have to directly say "no". Instead we can answer something vague, such as what Marie suggests "I'm completely swarmed", "Oh gosh! I've got so much going on" or "Can't do it, sorry."